Many men struggle for years to try to figure out what to give a woman, or how to really please her even. We typically think that showering them in flowers, gifts and other material things will satisfy them. Maybe even the occasional, "I love you", or holding her hand. Don't get me wrong-all of these things are indeed important, but we fail to realize that thing she needs, or perhaps requires the most is so very simple to provide...
We can't say that our conditioning as males is the reason to blame for our shortcomings in response to what she wants the most. We can't say that it's "weak" or somehow "feminine" to give her what she wants, but truly these are convenient excuses to not compromise on our masculine identities. Most of the time we allow our males friends (the ones who are more than likely single) to get to us and tease us for giving her this. Have you ever stopped to think that advice from historically single friends on relationships isn't that good of advice to listen to?
What a woman needs, wants and desires most is affection. It symbolizes security, comfort, protection and approval. These are vital and important commodities in her eyes. A simple hug can encapsulate all of these things-yet men generally don't like to hug. Hugging is a skill most men need to develop. It's a simple but effective way to re-enforce your love for her. Have you ever noticed that women love to hug? Whether it's hugging each other, children, animals or even stuffed animals, universally women hug.
From a woman's point of view, affection is essential to cement her relationship with a man. Without it, a woman will more than likely feel alienated from her mate. So men, do yourself a solid and start following up those " I love you" statements with a hug. Trust me,it'll mean more to her than anything you could ever buy or say.
I think that you ave made a good point here that get's to the very core of a woman. I feel that women are frequently misunderstood and characterized as "complex" in relationships and men are seen as "simple" or "easy" to understand. I think we, women, are fairly easy to understand and really don't want too much. At the end of the day I don't think I'm wrong in saying that both sexes just wants to feel needed, appreciated, and loved. Neither men or women want to feel that their efforts are in vain, and if hugging and showing affection is one easy, small way to show appreciation I say, "Hug away". I think I'll get a t-shirt made that says, "Have you hugged today?", just an idea....
ReplyDeleteOh gosh Elijah. This is lame. You are just giving women something else to use against us men. Don't act like your not guilty of "not hugging" You aren't that sensitive from what I know about you...I've never seen you really hug anybody but your son.
ReplyDeleteWell, well, well Elijah...all that body and brains to match, not to mention some sensitivity! If you truly believe these things that you've stated, then there is no doubt that you will make some young woman very lucky one day! By the way, are you still single? ;)
ReplyDeleteNice. I like a man who can think! And he's fine too! lol
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